Ladies, Changing Your State of Thought!
-Hold positive dialogue with yourself.
During an average day you spend perhaps 100 minutes talking with someone else. If you speak at about the average speed, you say between 10,000 and 20,000 words in a typical day. That may sound a lot, but these 10-20,000 words are only a small fraction of your internal dialogue.
Speech is, as we have already observed, just thoughts expressed in language. But most of your thoughts are never spoken to someone else. You speak them only to yourself. Most of your thinking is directed solely at yourself. It is what “I” says to “Me” that counts. It is not what the person at the next desk, or the customer, or the boss says to you that counts most.
The really important thing is what you’re “I” says to “Me.” The point that needs to be reinforced here is that When you dialogue with yourself, you should always use strong, positive language. Think only why you can and not why you can’t.
-Think “I am going to succeed – not fail.”
When you think you will succeed, your mind begins to find the solution for success.
-Think “I am a winner” not “I am a loser.”
The Mohammed Ali philosophy. Ali, over a long period of time, told himself that he was the greatest until at least he had convinced himself, and that in the final analysis is the only person that you will ever have to convince. Other people are automatically convinced you are great after you have convinced yourself.
-Analysing Your Internal Voice
As we have seen, it is essential that you become aware of your internal dialogue. Every person will have an internal voice. For some it will be loud and insistent, for others it will be barely audible. Try to identify the following:
- The direction your “internal voice” comes from
- What sort of voice tone it uses
- Is it a pleasure to listen to?
- Whose voice is it? You’re own?
If it belongs to someone else, did you give them permission to come into your mind? A nagging, blaming voice tone from the outside is stressful – and so is one from the inside. Does your internal voice make comparisons? Comparisons are shown by words such as:
- Better or best
- Worse or worst
- More or less
Identify whether or not you have any demotivating, unrealistic comparisons in your mind. When you hear yourself making a comparison of:
“How You Did (Behaviour)” or “The Sort Of Person You Are (Identity)” make sure you know the basis for this comparison. For Example:
The best question to ask is:
“I did badly.” “Compared to what?”
Your best? Your ideal? An expert? Unrealistic comparisons are depressing, but first you have to know they are unrealistic.
The above article was partly taken out of one of my NLP studies. I had to share it with you, hope you have taken some positive notes from the blog.
Have a positive thinking day.